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How I reached my goal weight

I don’t talk about weight loss much here on my blog, even though I wrote a book on the topic many years ago. I don’t want to obsess over my weight, so I keep my own journey out of the public eye (plus, no one cares about it but me). I only talk about it in my online Shape Shifting group. But today I reached my goal weight and I want to crow about it a little.

When I was writing Shape Shifting (the body/mind/spirit weight solution), I lost 50 pounds. I got it published, with a foreword by Neale Donald Walsch, and followed it up with the Shape Shifter’s Daily Diary (a law of attraction based weight loss–or other goal–journal). Then I moved on to other things.

During the years that followed, I wrote a couple more books and yo-yo’d up and down with the same ten pounds. I allowed myself that much leeway–as long as my clothes fit and I didn’t have to buy new ones just because of a few pounds, I was fine with that.

Then my parents both ended up with cancer, and my dad died. My mom is now in remission. It was a really tough few years, and I gained some weight back. Not all of it, thank goodness, but enough to have to buy new clothes.

Last spring, I decided I had to do something. I felt physically unwell and had to start buying an even larger size. So I started out with the UltraSimple Diet to clean up my eating habits. I’m now eating mostly organic (if I can’t find organic, I limit myself to natural and minimally processed foods, and keep sugar to a bare minimum).

I use the SparkPeople site to track my food intake and interact with others on the same path. I use my own Shape Shifter’s Daily Diary and post daily in the online group. I’ve become an avid walker, thanks to jog.fm–a site that helps you to make perfect playlists–and I track my exercise with a Fitbit.

This time last year, I felt sick all the time. I had panic attacks regularly and was too dizzy from Benign Paroxysmal Positional Vertigo (BPPV) to exercise. In fact, exercise could make me so sick that I’d end up in bed for days.

Today, I’m 34 pounds lighter than I was in April (15 pounds less than my initial 50 pound loss, so I’ve lost 65 total, from my highest weight). I feel so much better. I don’t remember the last time I had to take a Xanax for anxiety. I’m only rarely dizzy. I go for five-mile walks several times a week–and I enjoy it. This is HUGE. I, seriously, have not been able to exercise for many years.

My journey from 215 to 150.

My journey from 215 to 150.

I’m done “dieting” now, and won’t be deliberately trying to lose any more weight. If I never lost another pound, I’d be okay with that. But I will continue to strive toward my healthiest self, and stay within a nutritious calorie range. I wouldn’t be surprised to lose another 20, if that’s what my body needs to weigh. But deliberate weight loss is no longer my focus. Now I’m going to just concentrate on enjoying an increasingly healthy life. And that feels awesome!

My one resolution: No More Apologies!

I gave up New Year’s Resolutions a long time ago. This one just happens to coincide with the start of a New Year, so I might as well claim it as a “resolution” (although, doesn’t that automatically doom it to only last until February? Eeek!).

Anyway, it has come to my attention that one of my biggest personality defects, for lack of a better phrase, is that I voluntarily give my power away to the lowest bidder. As soon as anyone casts doubt on something I say or do, I instantly cave in and cry “Uncle!” even if I honestly felt that I was in the right before they said anything.

This isn’t news, really. I’ve always known that I do this, but I also thought that it was because I was wrong, after all! One of the things I’ve always liked about my personality is that I’m very willing to see both sides of a story and admit when I’m wrong. I am, naturally, a very fair person — TO OTHER PEOPLE! When I’m right, however, I rarely stand up for myself and say so. That’s the problem.

With Neale Donald Walsch, shortly after he offered, without even being asked, to write a foreword for my first book.

With Neale Donald Walsch, shortly after he offered, without even being asked, to write a foreword for my first book.

Even Neale Donald Walsch noticed this about me, when I had only known him a couple hours. He had just found a copy of my first book that day, and he volunteered to write a foreword for its second edition. That evening, he was raving about it to a crowd of about fifty people while I sat in the audience, ecstatic to hear someone of his professional stature saying such amazing things about my work. He announced before an entire room of my respected peers that he would do whatever he could to help me get the book seen, “…because she doesn’t even believe in her own work!” He could see better than I could my extreme fear of someone reading the book and disputing its veracity, even though I was very careful while writing it to make sure that couldn’t happen.

My fear of being proven wrong or laughed at because I made a mistake has kept me from succeeding, even when I know I’m right. I downplay my spiritual beliefs for fear of ridicule by friends and family members who are either atheists or believers of a standard religion’s doctrine, even though I KNOW how to tap into the power of the Universe and make it swirl into whatever I want it to be.

All these years, I was sort of proud of my ability to be so humble. The problem is, it hasn’t been humility, it’s been fear.

Over the last week, I’ve read a couple books that have given me a whole new way of looking at this issue: Will I Ever Be Good Enough? and Realms of the Earth Angels.

The first offers a “real-world” look at psychological reasons for this kind of behavior, which is called the Impostor Syndrome. BOY, did I relate to that!!!

The second offers a “New Age” look at spiritual reasons for this, and suggests that it might be caused by vows taken in past lives to stay quiet and not rock the boat, or draw attention to myself. That feels so true, so on the money, and I’m not even gonna apologize for resonating with this, even though last week I would have.

Talk about a double whammy! And just in time to claim my power back for a New Year! Look out, 2013, Lisa Bonnice finally believes in and claims her own power!

Here’s you a magical dog!

magical dog

Am I boring you?

I know I’ve been posting a lot of stuff lately about feminism, sexuality and age (both young and old). I hope I’m not coming off as a one-note wonder, but since I’ve started writing a book with my co-author, Stacey M. Kananen, who was sexually assaulted between the ages of 4-22 by her own father, I’ve become increasingly aware of how much more common this is than we realize. It’s leading me down paths of discovery that I wish to share with those who might be inclined to do … something … I don’t know what can be done, but we can’t just sit back and ignore the continual over-sexualization of the female form, no matter what its age.

My philosophy of life leans toward the “New Thought” side of things, wherein we are responsible for our own creations, where karma isn’t a punishment but is instead cause and effect, and “soul contracts” are agreements we make with others to experience both the best and worst life has to offer. That said, I know that some people will respond with things like “It’s all an illusion, anyway,” as if that makes it okay to sit back and watch these things happen, and the law of attraction crowd might say that it does no good to focus on things that we don’t want to see continuing. But I prefer to live by Gandhi’s words, “Be the change you wish to see in the world.”

One of the most valuable lessons I ever learned from Neale Donald Walsch was when he told me, “It’s not your job to save the world, just the ones God sends to you.” Well, “God” has sent me Stacey and her mission to bring awareness to child sexual abuse. So that’s what I’m doing.

Part of that awareness is shedding light on the fact that girls are treated as sexual beings from birth to death, in every culture, the world over. Many say that’s just the way it is, males are “visual beings” who can’t help themselves, and that I’m being an unrealistic and whiny baby by making a stink about it.

But here’s the deal. The stink is going to get stinkier, and I’m going to be talking about this more and more as time goes on and as this book gets off the ground. So if I’m boring you, just look the other way at these posts and watch for the funny and ironic ones. I’ll still be posting those, too, because life is still fun, but it’s also pretty scary and icky sometimes. I’m hoping to help throw a liferope to some who are stuck in the ick.

If you’re so inclined, why not send Stacey a friend request on Facebook and show your support? And if you’re not my Facebook friend, hit me up as well.

The Next Top Spiritual Author contest VOTE FOR LISA BONNICE

After a great deal of thought, I have decided to enter the Next Top Spiritual Author competition. This is like American Idol for someone like me. I can’t dance, I can’t sing, but I can write a pretty doggone good “New Age” book.

I’m entering the newest edition of my first book, Shape Shifting–the Body/Mind/Spirit Weight Solution. First place is a publishing contract with Hampton Roads. Those of you who know me know that I’ve been busting my ass to promote this book for many years, including doing a radio show, free coaching/conference calls, creating and publishing the Shape Shifter’s Daily Diary to help readers learn to Shape Shift their own lives, and even offering a free ebook to those whose budgets don’t allow for books in exchange for a random act of kindness. I’ve also started a Shape Shifting Team on the SparkPeople site, in order to help members there to add Shape Shifting to their diet/exercise program.

I truly believe that Shape Shifting is an idea whose time has come and that I have a shot at winning this competition. But I need your help. Round 1 is more or less a popularity contest, so I need you and everyone you know to vote for me. Tell everyone you know, and post it on your Facebook, Twitter and whatever other social networking sites you use. Help me spread the word and make it to Round 2! Also, please forgive me in advance for any heavy promotional overkill. I want to win this, and in order to do so, I must be relentless.

Voting begins March 29, and this is the web address you’ll visit to do so:  


If you click on that link before March 29, it won’t take you to my profile, it will take you to the site’s home page. The author profile pages won’t be activated until the contest goes live.

Once again, please help me to spread the word and get as many votes as I can. I’ve waited a long time for an opportunity like this, and I’m going to make the best of it.