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Abraham’s quote today is for Shape Shifters

I love the daily quotes from the Abraham-Hicks site and post them every day in the Abraham/Law of Attraction SparkTeam, but today’s is especially fitting for Shape Shifting:

True healers know that wellness is the order of the day, so they do not allow themselves, even for a moment, to see anything other than that. So, the power of the healer is in the power to influence the one who needs to be healed into a vibration that allows the healing that they are summoning. (that they could get, even without the healer, but they can get faster with a healer’s influence)
— Abraham
Excerpted from the workshop in San Francisco, CA on Saturday, July 30th, 2005 #392

To me, this means that we are all our own healers. If we intend to make healthy changes in our bodies, then we need to make equally healthy changes in our mind and spirit in order to stay balanced. When we become so focused on healthy body/mind/spirit balance, then no other outcome is possible.

Abraham Hicks
Abraham SparkTeam
Shape Shifting SparkTeam

A new body/mind/spirit weight loss clue!

According to this article:


obesity is an inflammatory condition!

Now, bodywise, this can be addressed pretty easily. Just Google or ask your doc (or Naturopath) for the best way to decrease inflammation.

Mindwise, according to Debbie Shapiro’s brilliant Bodymind Workbook (which is similar to Louise Hay’s work only much more in depth), inflammation means “a bodily expression of an inner inflammation; we have become inflamed or enraged about something and are expressing it through the body.”

When we take this into the Shape Shifting realm, this means we might want to work on any forgiveness issues we may have not addressed yet.

Spiritwise, anything out of balance with your Center is going to express itself physically. Perhaps we can connect with our own Spirit to help us to “forgive those who have trespassed against us.” Maybe getting a little Reiki would be a big help!

Will it help us to lose weight? Only time will tell, but whether it does or not is almost irrelevant, isn’t it? Only good can come of these actions, either way.

The Next Top Spiritual Author contest VOTE FOR LISA BONNICE

After a great deal of thought, I have decided to enter the Next Top Spiritual Author competition. This is like American Idol for someone like me. I can’t dance, I can’t sing, but I can write a pretty doggone good “New Age” book.

I’m entering the newest edition of my first book, Shape Shifting–the Body/Mind/Spirit Weight Solution. First place is a publishing contract with Hampton Roads. Those of you who know me know that I’ve been busting my ass to promote this book for many years, including doing a radio show, free coaching/conference calls, creating and publishing the Shape Shifter’s Daily Diary to help readers learn to Shape Shift their own lives, and even offering a free ebook to those whose budgets don’t allow for books in exchange for a random act of kindness. I’ve also started a Shape Shifting Team on the SparkPeople site, in order to help members there to add Shape Shifting to their diet/exercise program.

I truly believe that Shape Shifting is an idea whose time has come and that I have a shot at winning this competition. But I need your help. Round 1 is more or less a popularity contest, so I need you and everyone you know to vote for me. Tell everyone you know, and post it on your Facebook, Twitter and whatever other social networking sites you use. Help me spread the word and make it to Round 2! Also, please forgive me in advance for any heavy promotional overkill. I want to win this, and in order to do so, I must be relentless.

Voting begins March 29, and this is the web address you’ll visit to do so:  


If you click on that link before March 29, it won’t take you to my profile, it will take you to the site’s home page. The author profile pages won’t be activated until the contest goes live.

Once again, please help me to spread the word and get as many votes as I can. I’ve waited a long time for an opportunity like this, and I’m going to make the best of it.


Could it be … progress?

After a somewhat rocky start, I feel like I’m finally on the road. You know how sometimes when you start a car that has been sitting in the cold for a while it sputters and coughs and makes you bang the steering wheel with frustration? Then you flood the engine and continue to curse that stupid old car for not doing what you want, when all it’s actually doing is responding exactly the way it’s supposed to, given its conditions?

Well, I feel like I finally got this old car started up again and am once again amazed by how well it runs once it’s back on the highway and in its element. I took some time off from my weight loss efforts, after finishing my book and losing my first 50 pounds, to focus on other things … things like health and family issues … but now that I can focus on my weight again, I’m very excited to be back on track.

I’ve lost five pounds since joining the SparkPeople site, and have made TREMENDOUS strides in the exercise department (I give all the credit to my Wii Fit Plus, which my daughter talked me into getting). It has exercises and games that I can actually do, given my “health issues,” and I look forward to doing it every day.

I’ve started a couple teams on SparkPeople, one based on Abraham-Hicks’ Law of Attraction work, and the other based on my own book, Shape Shifting–reclaiming YOUR perfect body (a body/mind/spirit look at weight and health balancing). Check out my SparkPage for links, if you’re interested. I’ve joined a lot of other like-minded teams and have met some wonderful people. In fact, I can see how my Facebook addiction might just become a SparkPeople addiction instead.

If Marilyn is the best I can do, that’s not so bad

I just found a picture of Marilyn Monroe, online, that I’ve seen a thousand times before and probably so have you. But for the first time I paid attention to it, because I noticed that she’s the exact size I am when I’m in my best, maintainable condition. I know that, to a  lot of people, this picture of her looks fat, but that’s because those people were raised since the advent of rampant cosmetic surgery, digitized photographs, eating disorders and fitness obsessions.

I stressed the word “maintainable” above because I think that’s a really important point to make. Sure, I can get skinnier than this, but not easily and I can’t stay that way and live a bearable life. It’s time we all stop kicking ourselves if our healthiest forms look like one of the biggest sex symbols in human history.

This is a picture of a healthy, adult female. And if that’s the best I can attain, then that’s good enough for me.

Does ridiculing celebrities help us or hurt us?

I was stepping into my morning shower when I caught a glimpse of my naked backside in a full length mirror on the door behind me. Shuddering with disgust, I couldn’t help noticing the cellulite and crease of skin that runs from my back to my breastline. I quickly stepped into the water and closed the curtain so I wouldn’t give my inner critic any more material, because it was revved up and ready to go already.

“Jesus, you’re gross,” it said. “Do you really expect Jeff to be attracted to you, looking like that?”

I told it to shut up and explained to it several things:

  1. I’m in my forties (and so is Jeff, who looks it, too).
  2. Even at my physical best, I cannot look like a centerfold. It just isn’t in my genetic makeup.
  3. Realistically, I don’t want to look like a centerfold. I truly dislike being leered at.
  4. I have legitimate health issues that block me from rigorous exercise and I do what I can (not that I’m arguing for my limitations, but I have yet to overcome these difficulties).
  5. I don’t care enough, most of the time (until I see that view in the mirror or some exquisitely beautiful woman) to give deliberate, intentional focus to creating a buffed and ripped body, so the chances of my actually ever having one are slim and none.
  6. I wrote a friggin’ book on this topic and ought to know better than to let my inner frat boy beat me up.

So once I shamed the inner critic into silence … after all, I wasn’t making excuses, I was cutting myself a legitimate break … I was allowed to think and my mind wandered. I recalled, a few days back, surfing the web and looking at pictures of celebrities on one of those gossip websites that prides itself on running unflattering photos of those who we, as a society, have put on pedestals. You know the kind of pics … you see them at the checkout counter on the tabloid covers … pictures of stars in bikinis with cellulite and back fat, or poor Kirstie Alley who NEVER catches a break with these people.

I understand why these pictures are popular … they help to smooth the sharp edge off of the unrealistic demand that we, the unwashed masses, somehow diet, sculpt and exercise our ways into looking like people who make a career out of looking amazing with surgery, personal trainers and rigid diets. In fact, recalling these pictures immediately after seeing my own fat ass, actually did help me to stop bashing myself. After all, if one of the rich, wealthy and worshiped looks like I do naked, then I guess I must look like a fairly normal human specimen and that’s okay.

So, yeah, I can dig it. There is a need for us to see the truth that lies beneath the phony Hollywood veneer. But do they have to be so mean? Do they have to sound like my inner critic?

I would love it if one of these sites were to run the exact same photos, but add kinder captions. I do want to see these pictures, because they shatter the illusion and, therefore, help with self-esteem issues. But instead of headlines that scream “Look at her fat aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaass!” I would prefer they say something like, “Hey, her ass looks just like mine!”

Hey, a girl can dream, can’t she?