Solve your body’s mystery symptoms

I’m hosting The Shift Network’s second annual Intuitive Medicine Summit, a free online event from July 25-29, 2022. I love hosting these summits because I get to talk to some of the most interesting people on earth about ways that we can participate in our own healing, and not just rely on someone else to “fix” us. 


For example, this year I talked with Marie Manuchehri about accessing help from the “other side” to solve health issues, and Dr. Keesha Ewers about the link between childhood trauma, intuitive abilities, and adult illness. I also spoke with Dr. Titus Chiu about vagus nerve activation to unlock your intuition, creativity and healing.

I also hosted a panel discussion with the founders of the National Organization for Medical Intuition (NOMI) Wendie Colter, Dr. Tiffany Barsotti, Cay Randall-May, Dr. Maria Gentile and Elizabeth Thorson about their dedication to the advancement of professional Medical Intuition and their vision of a world where medical intuitive practitioners are accepted in clinical healthcare as well as in private practice. 

Tina Zion shares wisdom about tapping into your own intuitive abilities to help yourself and others, and Dayna Macy offers helpful advice about listening to your body’s signals with regard to overeating and which foods will best serve its optimum functioning. Masami Covey talks with me about burnout and compassion fatigue and how these don’t have to be viewed as negatives … they may actually be our intuition trying to tell us something!

Anyone who has been frustrated with undiagnosed symptoms or who may be struggling to work within the sometimes counterintuitive mainstream medical field will find valuable information here. 

The best thing about Shift Network summits is that they are free to watch online during the week they air. Each session replays, free, for 48 hours after its airtime. The only cost is if you choose to purchase the upgrade package to add the recordings and special bonuses to your digital library. There’s so much more I could tell you, but I think you’d be better served to see for yourself. Register here for the FREE Intuitive Medicine Summit and check out the power-packed lineup of speakers. You’ll be glad you did.

International travel in uncertain times

My husband and I, like many other people, have been desperate to travel. Our trip from the US to Scotland has been postponed since Covid reared its ugly head in 2019. A couple months ago it began looking like the pandemic would soon be in the rearview mirror, so we snagged some airline tickets and booked our gas/food/lodging. Then, Covid bounced back with yet another variant and our trip has turned into a house of rearview mirrors.


There are so many things to consider now that travelers never had to think about before:

  • Are the places we want to visit even open?
  • What are the local mask mandates and what’s the current mask status for US airports and flights? Will it change … again? Should I wear a mask anyway, even if I don’t have to? Will my fellow passengers behave like a-holes if I do or don’t wear one?
  • Will any of my flights be cancelled? The airlines are having a hard time staffing and flights are being cancelled left and right. Our airline, specifically, has flights falling off the schedule like dominoes.
  • If we are cancelled, what’s our Plan B?
  • Will we be able to get to the other terminal and through the passport/security check between our connecting flights in time, since so many other people are traveling now as well?
  • How the heck do we get that damned required Covid test to re-enter the US?

That’s just the tip of the iceberg. We also have to test at home before we go, not because it’s legally required to travel to the UK, but because if either of us test positive, we can’t/won’t go. Thank goodness we bought travel insurance (this is our first time doing so … previously, we took our chances and always got lucky).

Then, by law, we have to test negative the day before our flights home in order to return to the US, which means we have to figure out how/where that works. I’ve read so many conflicting reports that it seems there is no standardized method. This makes my head hurt and definitely takes a lot of fun out of the trip.

Then, if we do test positive, we have to figure out what to do, where to stay, how to pay for it? Yes, travel insurance is our friend, but that’s not immediate relief. We have to have a Plan B set up for this possibility.

Chances are very good that we will not get infected: we’re both vaxxed and boosted, and we both had Covid this year. So, yeah, slim chances, but never say never with this virus. Expect the unexpected — make like a Boy Scout and be prepared.

Here are a few helpful hints I’ve discovered:

  • Working with a travel agent is a huge stress reliever. Rickesia Macon of K.I. Home & Away has been a godsend.
  • Hang out in Facebook travel groups. They are populated with people who are in the exact same boat, and are happy to share information and advice.
  • An app called TripIt looks really helpful. Enter your trip info and you and your traveling companions will each have it handy, on your phones. I haven’t used it yet on an actual trip, but it’s filled in and ready for even my tech-challenged husband to use!

One week from this moment, God willing and the creek don’t rise, we’ll be drinking a pint in an Edinburgh pub. Meantime, I’ll keep you posted if/when I discover any more helpful hints.


Lisa Bonnice is an award-winning, best-selling author whose “day job” is as a Program Host at The Shift Network, where she hosts summits on ancestral healing, life after death, and intuition and medicine.

Her most recent book is a metaphysical comedy novel entitled The Poppet Master (previously published as Be Careful What You Witch For!, now revamped and with a new ending). The Poppet Master is a modern-day fairy tale about Lola Garnett, a bored housewife and office drone who wakes up with unexpected psychic abilities, and no instruction manual, and Twink, the reluctant, sarcastic faery assigned to assist and educate her. The Poppet Master is available wherever books are sold. Its sequel is in the works.

Lisa is also writing The Maxwell Curse, a fictionalized version of a story she found in her own ancestral lineage about a witch trial, a generational curse, and massive mine explosion, all of which left ripples of destruction in their wake, devastating one family’s tree.

http://www.lisabonnice.com

“There’s a power in words …”

“… if I can find the right one, if I can just know you …”
(see the video clip, below)

That’s how this scene from Doctor Who begins, from one of my favorite episodes, The Shakespeare Code. You don’t have to be a Doctor Who fan to get the Aha! moment I just had that reminded me of how The Doctor vanquishes an evil foe’s power simply by naming her. “There’s a power in words …” he says.

I’ve recently been dealing with some scary health issues for which I’ve been struggling to receive a diagnosis. Not knowing what’s “wrong” has been excruciating. The anxiety alone magnifies any symptoms. It’s a vicious cycle, a downward spiral so severe that even my most upbeat, heal-thyself methods have not been working.

Finally, though, I have a pretty good idea of what’s going on inside. Thank goodness it’s nothing fatal, but it is challenging. This knowledge alone has vanquished the anxiety’s power to curl me up into the fetal position. Naming the “illness” gives me power. Now I know what I’m dealing with.

There’s a power in words.

I’m reminded, more importantly, of the work of a man I’m grateful to call a friend, Paul Levy, who writes and teaches about a “mind-virus” called wetiko. Essentially, wetiko is all-the-bad-things, which are running on a loop below the surface of consciousness, mucking everything up. The only way to dissolve wetiko’s power is to see it, to name it. This is why those “Aha!” moments are so healing.

Paul does a much better job explaining it than I do, so check out his newest book. The reason I bring up wetiko here is that this is how I feel about naming my symptoms with a diagnosis.

I see you. I name you. You have no power over me.

(For my fellow Whovains, here’s another fine example of wetiko as dramatized by Steven Moffat … The Silence.)

Lisa Bonnice is an award-winning, best-selling author whose “day job” is as a Program Host at The Shift Network, where she hosts summits on ancestral healing, life after death, and intuition and medicine.

Her most recent book is a metaphysical comedy novel entitled The Poppet Master (previously published as Be Careful What You Witch For!, now revamped and with a new ending). The Poppet Master is a modern-day fairy tale about Lola Garnett, a bored housewife and office drone who wakes up with unexpected psychic abilities, and no instruction manual, and Twink, the reluctant, sarcastic faery assigned to assist and educate her. The Poppet Master is available wherever books are sold. Its sequel is in the works.

Lisa is also writing The Maxwell Curse, a fictionalized version of a story she found in her own ancestral lineage about a witch trial, a generational curse, and massive mine explosion, all of which left ripples of destruction in their wake, devastating one family’s tree.

http://www.lisabonnice.com

Is there anybody out there?*

Social media is a strange sport. On one hand, it feels madly egocentric to think that anyone out there cares what I have to say. On the other hand, some of the most entertaining things I find online are shared by people just like me.

On a third hand (my blog, I get to say how many hands we’re working with), as a published author who would like to be more widely known, I’m required to somehow “grow an audience”. Publishers demand that authors market their own books. Unlike the olden times, when the publishers took care of all that, the responsibility now falls into the author’s lap. Otherwise your books don’t get published or, if they do, they can sit on a shelf, unsold, collecting dust (although Fear of Our Father is still selling well in bookstores, almost ten years later).

It’s a huge source of frustration. This isn’t something I’m good at or even interested in. If I’ve got something to say, I post it on Facebook (yes, showing my age, even if I do have accounts on Instagram and Twitter … no TikTok … too old for that).

Plus, this kind of thing is a lot easier if you write non-fiction. You can share advice, words of wisdom and pithy posts that attract people to the depth of your knowledge. I write (mostly) novels. What’s a fiction author got to offer a social media audience?

Even so, I have a decent start at a following, and more than one book I’d like to get seen, with new ones on the way. So … I have a question for those of you who are following me on any of my socials … why are you following me? What do you want to talk about?

Okay, that’s two questions. My blog, I get to say how many questions we’re working with.


*I know this is bad grammar, but it’s Pink Floyd song (again, showing my age by even knowing about it):


Lisa Bonnice is an award-winning, best-selling author whose “day job” is as a Program Host at The Shift Network, where she hosts summits on ancestral healing, life after death, and intuition and medicine.

Her current passion-project is a series of metaphysical comedy novels. The first is entitled The Poppet Master (previously published as Be Careful What You Witch For!, now revamped and with a new ending). The Poppet Master is a modern-day fairy tale about Lola Garnett, a bored housewife and office drone who wakes up with unexpected psychic abilities, and no instruction manual, and Twink, the reluctant, sarcastic faery assigned to assist and educate her. The Poppet Master is available wherever books are sold. Its sequel is in the works.

Lisa is also writing The Maxwell Curse, a fictionalized version of a story she found in her own ancestral lineage about a witch trial, a generational curse, and massive mine explosion, all of which left ripples of destruction in their wake, devastating one family’s tree.

http://www.lisabonnice.com

Meet with your ancestors through the process of Genealogical Regression

Research shows that our very DNA can hold the traumas of our ancestors. Unresolved inherited pain can play a prominent role in anxiety, depression, hereditary diseases, and a range of physical and emotional challenges. The good news is that there is something you can do to mitigate inherited patterns and ease ancestral traumas that are affecting your life now. You can bring peace to painful relationships, legacies, and events, and live a happier, healthier life with a deeper sense of belonging and connection.


No matter who you are, you walk through life carrying ancestral ripples of energy — the burdens and blessings of your lineages — within you. Through the practice of Genealogical Regression, you can meet with your ancestors, send healing energy to everyone in your family (whether they’re living or they’ve passed on — even if you were adopted), and dissolve distressing patterns that have been carried in your lineages for lifetimes.

Check it out on Saturday, February 19, for a soul-nourishing event, as the creator of Genealogical Regression, Dr. Shelley Kaehr — a world-renowned past-life regressionist and a pioneer in mind-body wellness — introduces you to her unique healing modality.

You can register here for Discover the Transformative Power of Genealogical Regression to Heal Your Lineage — Past, Present & Future.

During this powerful hour, you’ll: 

  • Explore what Genealogical Regression is — and how it can help you heal family trauma, break free from deep-seated burdens, and send healing blessings up and down your lineage
  • Be guided through a powerful visualization journey to connect with your ancestors and send them healing light… to raise the vibration of your entire family — past, present, and future 
  • Understand the difference between Genealogical Regression and past-life regression
  • Discover why it’s key to connect with your ancestors at the level of their higher selves, transcending difficult patterns and talking soul-to-soul
  • Find out why healing your inner child is the first step to gently resolving suffering from past events, lingering pain, and difficult emotions

Raising the vibration of your lineage can benefit not only you and all those in your family’s past, present, and future — but everyone who comes across your kin in daily life. As your positive intentions ripple outward, you become part of the solution that all of humanity needs so much right now. 

When you start breaking free from painful legacies, you’ll feel lighter, be better able to fully express the gifts you’re here to share, and be empowered to make enormous positive transformations in your life and the world.

P.S. In Discover the Transformative Power of Genealogical Regression to Heal Your Lineage — Past, Present & Future with Dr. Shelley Kaehr…

… you’ll experience a powerful guided journey to send your ancestors healing light and raise the vibration of your entire family — past, present, and future..

I hope you’re able to catch the event as scheduled. But if you register and miss it, you’ll receive a downloadable recording as soon as it’s available.


Lisa Bonnice is an award-winning, best-selling author whose “day job” is as a Program Host at The Shift Network, where she hosts summits on ancestral healing, life after death, and intuition and medicine.

Her current passion-project is a series of metaphysical comedy novels. The first is entitled The Poppet Master (previously published as Be Careful What You Witch For!, now revamped and with a new ending). The Poppet Master is a modern-day fairy tale about Lola Garnett, a bored housewife and office drone who wakes up with unexpected psychic abilities, and no instruction manual, and Twink, the reluctant, sarcastic faery assigned to assist and educate her. The Poppet Master is available wherever books are sold. Its sequel is in the works.

Lisa is also writing The Maxwell Curse, a fictionalized version of a story she found in her own ancestral lineage about a witch trial, a generational curse, and massive mine explosion, all of which left ripples of destruction in their wake, devastating one family’s tree.

http://www.lisabonnice.com

How can you help change the world?

If you, like so many others, are wondering what you can do to help humanity find its way through these strange and transformative times — especially if your skill-set doesn’t include inventing new ways to adapt to climate change or running for political office — Ancestral Healing is something you can do to help.


Our current world’s condition is the culmination of centuries of built-up, unhealed traumas and our ancestors are clamoring to us to help right their wrongs, before it’s too late. 

It’s time for The Shift Network’s fourth annual Ancestral Healing Summit, a free online event from January 18-21. 

Many of us are finding that this powerful and important work is exactly what we’re here to do. We are, as Heather Dane calls us, Generational Pattern Shifters. We feel an urge … we hear a calling … to work with our ancestors to heal not just our own dysfunctional family patterns, but global damage done to and by generations past in the forms of plagues, diasporas, holocausts, slavery, colonization, wars and other extreme traumas that are still causing ripple effects today.

You can register for free here.

This year’s summit includes powerful conversations with luminaries like Thomas Hübl, Sandra Ingerman, Christina Pratt and Jill Purce. We discuss the big picture and our places in it, and what our contributions to global healing can be.

Even more conversations include practical tools we can use to communicate with our ancestors to ask for their help and work with them, hand in hand.

Shelley Kaehr talks about generational regression, which is similar to past-life work, except that we can be regressed into ancestral storylines. Masami Covey shares how our bodies demonstrate ancestral traumas, and how to interpret the stories they’re trying to tell us. Kelly Sullivan Walden offers an excellent method of tapping into ancestral messages via our dreams.

Carrie Paris offers a practice using phases of the moon to release ancestral family patterns, and Nancy Hendrickson talks about how we can use the Tarot to divine messages directly from Spirit, and our kin, to help us along our path. Fern Vuchinich and Christina Caudill both offer information about how astrology can help us dig in to our stories and untangle snarled webs.

Dr. Velma Love offers a beautiful and empowering reframing of the experience of enslaved peoples. Liza Miron discusses the repercussions we are all feeling due to generations of our grandmothers experiencing painful loss of pregnancies and difficult childbirths, and Langston Kahn offers a perspective on healing the “father wound”.

Ancestral Healing is breathtaking in its scope — once you’ve experienced the power of this work, you’ll never look at life the same way. You can see for yourself when you register for the event and check out the power-packed lineup of speakers for this year’s Summit. I promise, you’ll be glad that you did. And, it really is free to watch while the Summit is live. The only cost is if you purchase the upgrade package to add this collection, and its gorgeous selection of bonuses, to your digital library.

I do hope you’ll join us for The Ancestral Healing Summit, a FREE online event from January 18-21. I’ll see you there!


Lisa Bonnice is an award-winning, best-selling author whose “day job” is as a Program Host at The Shift Network, where she hosts summits on ancestral healing, life after death, and intuition and medicine.

Her current passion-project is a series of metaphysical comedy novels. The first is entitled The Poppet Master (previously published as Be Careful What You Witch For!, now revamped and with a new ending). The Poppet Master is a modern-day fairy tale about Lola Garnett, a bored housewife and office drone who wakes up with unexpected psychic abilities, and no instruction manual, and Twink, the reluctant, sarcastic faery assigned to assist and educate her. The Poppet Master is available wherever books are sold. Its sequel is in the works.

Lisa is also writing The Maxwell Curse, a fictionalized version of a story she found in her own ancestral lineage about a witch trial, a generational curse, and massive mine explosion, all of which left ripples of destruction in their wake, devastating one family’s tree.

http://www.lisabonnice.com

Evidential mediumship: what qualifies as proof?

Why would anyone believe a psychic medium when they say they’re communicating with our dead loved ones? They better have some proof, right?


Right. Well, here’s some proof, with a bit of background first, so the “proof” makes sense.

I’m a program host at The Shift Network where I co-produce three annual summits (Ancestral Healing Summit, Intuitive Medicine Summit and Beyond the Veil Summit). I interview a lot of interesting people. One of them is Suzanne Giesemann, a well-know and highly respected evidential psychic medium.

Suzanne wasn’t always a medium. In fact, she’s a former U.S. Navy Commander who served as a commanding officer and aide to the Chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff on 9/11. In other words, she’s about as no-nonsense as it gets and she insists on evidence from the “other side” that they are who they say they are.

Last year, when Suzanne and I were in the pre-interview Zoom greenroom doing mic and lighting checks for the Beyond the Veil Summit 2020, one of the lights on my set flashed briefly. This is a well-made, sturdy lamp, which never shorts out, but here it was blinking while I was chatting with a psychic medium. I said to Suzanne, “Well, that’s odd. That lamp never flashes. I wonder if that’s a sign that someone is trying to connect.”

Suzanne cocked her head and said, after a moment, “I’m hearing ‘Mom’.”

Well, shut my mouth and call me corn pone. That lamp used to belong to Mom, before she died. There’s no way Suzanne would have known that.

The lamp behind me used to belong to my mom. After she died, it became a part of my Shift Network set.

She then delivered some uplifting massages from Mom that gave me goosebumps of recognition, messages so personal that I came “this close” to responding like those people you see on TV shows who burst into tears when a psychic medium hits upon a deep truth. I understand now that they react like that because the information literally resonates with them so powerfully that it makes them twang with emotion. No way the information is fake.

Suzanne added one final message from Mom: in order to prove that this was really a message from her, I should watch for owls over the next couple days. That’s my sign. Whenever I see an owl, it’s Mom’s reminder that the message Suzanne delivered came from her.

I live in an area where there aren’t any live owls, so I knew I’d have to be content with seeing coincidental photos, bumper stickers, ads … the usual inanimate signs. At first, I saw owls everywhere, especially online, and was pretty tickled by this until my doubting mind figured it’s gotta be algorithms — my device obviously heard us talking about owls and now I’m seeing them everywhere online. I needed non-digital proof.

I went for a walk in my neighborhood the next day. As I walked, I wondered, was it really Mom? She and I weren’t on the best of terms when she passed so it was hard to believe she’d deliver such a kind and encouraging message. Maybe Suzanne was just tapping into something I needed to hear, without knowing the context or why.

So I said, out loud, “Mom, if this is really you, show me an owl before I get home.” I knew it was a challenge and didn’t really expect to see an owl. Right then and there, I froze in my tracks when I “heard” a nudge to look at the roof of the house across the street from me. There I saw an owl perched next to a vent pipe (it was a decoy, installed to scare critters away from the pipe).

I burst out laughing and offered a round of applause, right there on the sidewalk, not caring if anyone wondered why I was laughing and clapping. What are the odds that I would just happen to look up at that time? Boy, talk about validation! Then I took out my camera and snapped a picture, like ya do. (Pictures, or it didn’t happen.)

If you watch my interview with Suzanne during this year’s summit (her session airs on Monday, October 11 at 10:00 AM Pacific time) you can hear us talking more in depth about this synchronistic owl sighting.

I told her what occurred last year and Suzanne explained that Mom didn’t just nudge me to look up when I happened to be walking by an owl. Mom first put the question in my head to ask her for a sign — as I “happened” to be walking by an owl — and then gave me the nudge to look up.

In fact, she probably nudged me to turn down that exact street where I would find an owl.

But wait! There’s more!

Just this morning, weeks after recording this year’s Summit interview with Suzanne, I went for another walk. On my way home, I was bummed to realize that I wasn’t walking down the same street as Mom’s owl and I wouldn’t see it today.

As I was in the middle of this thought, I got a nudge to look across the street at the roofs and saw this on a completely different house. Yes, it’s another decoy owl.

That’s not the only undeniable message Mom managed to get through to me during this summit (she’s really getting the hang of this after-life communication thing!). Next time I’ll tell you about my interview with Anne Pryor who created a “soul painting”, live, during our session and the amazing message that came through as she painted.

The Beyond the Veil Summit is a free online event that airs during the week of October 11-15. Each session repeats for 48 hours, so if you can’t watch it during its airtime, you can catch it for two more days. The only cost is if you choose to purchase the summit recordings (and extra bonuses) for your digital library.

See you there!


Lisa Bonnice is an award-winning, best-selling author whose “day job” is as a Program Host at The Shift Network, where she hosts summits on ancestral healing, life after death, and intuition and medicine.

Her current passion-project is a series of metaphysical comedy novels. The first is entitled The Poppet Master (previously published as Be Careful What You Witch For!, now revamped and with a new ending). The Poppet Master is a modern-day fairy tale about Lola Garnett, a bored housewife and office drone who wakes up with unexpected psychic abilities, and no instruction manual, and Twink, the reluctant, sarcastic faery assigned to assist and educate her. The Poppet Master is available wherever books are sold. Its sequel is in the works.

Lisa is also writing The Maxwell Curse, a fictionalized version of a story she found in her own ancestral lineage about a witch trial, a generational curse, and massive mine explosion, all of which left ripples of destruction in their wake, devastating one family’s tree.

http://www.lisabonnice.com

Learn to listen to your body’s signals

Be sure to tune in this week for The Shift Network’s very first Intuitive Medicine Summit (hosted by yours truly), a FREE online event from June 7-11.


Normally, these summits are broadcast shortly after they’re recorded but this one was postponed for a couple months due to scheduling delays – but I think there’s a deeper reason, on a metaphysical level.

Personally, I think the air-date was delayed so enough time would pass that I could report the powerful results I experienced after applying some of the things I learned during my interviews with more than 30 of today’s highly sought-after intuitive healers, doctors, and researchers — including Cyndi Dale, Dr. Titus Chiu, Robert Peng, Dr. Shamini Jain, and Steven Washington.

When I began preparing for this summit four months ago, I made notes about my physical condition so I could compare and contrast afterwards. When I looked back on those notes today, I was stunned by some of the health challenges I was experiencing then that no longer vex me now. In fact, I had forgotten how they used to rule my life.

I’m sleeping better and my formerly life-disrupting gut issues have subsided almost completely. Plus, I’ve lost 15 pounds and my pre-lockdown clothes fit again. I don’t have to live in pajama pants anymore!

This was a direct result of the interviews in this summit. I gathered pieces of information from each guest and put them together to solve health challenges that have plagued me for decades. For years, I’d been begging doctors to help, but none could suss out the holistic causes of these chronic issues. By listening to my intuition and following a trail of synchronistic breadcrumbs, I was led to information that helped me figure out the answers to the question, What’s wrong with me???

My wish is for you to do the same. You can register for free here. The only cost is if you choose to purchase the upgrade package, which allows you to keep the recordings and gives you access to all the bonuses. But to watch the summit online is free, as it streams during the week of June 7-11.

I spent a lot of time interviewing medical intuitives like Wendie Colter, Tina Zion, Deborah King, and more, asking how they do what they do, and how we can do it too.

I also talked to medical practitioners who use their own intuition when working with patients, like Judith Orloff, MD, Norm Shealy, MD, Beth McDougall, MD, Dr. Natasha Fallahi, Cecile Carson, MD, and many others.

You’ll hear numerous “wounded healer” stories as my guests share about regaining their own wellness after tuning in to their intuitive wisdom. And, because this is a challenge many of us face, several conversations include advice about how to communicate with mainstream-minded practitioners who don’t believe in all this “woo-woo” stuff!

There’s so much more I could tell you, but I think you’d be better served to see for yourself. Register here for the FREE Intuitive Medicine Summit and check out the power-packed lineup of speakers. You’ll be glad you did.


Lisa Bonnice is an award-winning, best-selling author whose “day job” is as a Program Host at The Shift Network, where she hosts summits on ancestral healing, life after death, and intuition and medicine.

Her current passion-project is a series of metaphysical comedy novels. The first is entitled The Poppet Master (previously published as Be Careful What You Witch For!, now revamped and with a new ending). The Poppet Master is a modern-day fairy tale about Lola Garnett, a bored housewife and office drone who wakes up with unexpected psychic abilities, and no instruction manual, and Twink, the reluctant, sarcastic faery assigned to assist and educate her. The Poppet Master is available wherever books are sold. Its sequel is in the works.

Lisa is also writing The Maxwell Curse, a fictionalized version of a story she found in her own ancestral lineage about a witch trial, a generational curse, and massive mine explosion, all of which left ripples of destruction in their wake, devastating one family’s tree.

http://www.lisabonnice.com

Heirlooms and Ancestors

Priceless heirlooms or burdensome dust collectors? How you feel about family heirlooms can tell you a lot about yourself and your ancestral history.

I saw an article online recently about how the younger generation isn’t interested in family heirlooms. I’m both scandalized by and understanding of that attitude. I think that’s something that evolves if you manage to live long enough. From the perspective of ancestral healing, the question takes on a new depth.


When you ask yourself how you feel about heirlooms, it can tell you a lot about family behavior patterns that you might not have considered before. So ask yourself, depending on which side of the coin you favor:

Why do you feel that heirlooms must be passed on? Do you feel that your ancestors’ stories can be kept alive by bequeathing the items they owned to their descendants? Or, are you more interested in their value as antiques? If your heirlooms were destroyed or stolen, which flavor of loss you would feel?

OR

Why aren’t you interested in taking on the responsibility of family heirlooms? Is it about not cluttering up your house with relatively (no pun intended) meaningless stuff? Do you see it as a bunch of old crap that belonged to people you never knew (or cared about)? Do you move too often and don’t have a stable place to store or display them? What are your thoughts?

When I asked myself about my family’s heirlooms, which I now treasure, here’s what I realized:

When I was a kid, I was interested when family lore was shared, but that didn’t happen often. I didn’t feel a great sense of connection with my ancestors. All I knew was my mom’s dad immigrated from Scotland and my dad’s dad came from Malta. Both of my grandmas were born in the US and I didn’t know their nationalities. I don’t recall any heirlooms on display in our house. I learned years later that they were stored in a box in the attic.

As I grew up, as the only girl, my mom started talking about passing her china and silver down to me. And, as my mom grew older and more affluent, she began collecting things of her own that would be heirlooms for future generations. She had an exquisite collection of trinket boxes and Royal Albert style bone china teacups that she wouldn’t allow anyone to touch. They stayed behind glass in lighted display cases.

Mom would get mad at me because, in her eyes, I was too irresponsible to take care of all these things if she suddenly died. I was young and moved around a lot, I struggled to make ends meet, and the last thing I wanted to think about was taking care of a bunch of meaningless stuff that would someday be foisted on me. To worry about teacups and trinket boxes seemed almost insulting when I couldn’t afford to get my kids vaccinated to prevent them being expelled from elementary school. The guilt trips I received over my inability to take care of things I didn’t want or ask for were insane (I took the guilt trips to heart at the time … I only see the insanity now, in retrospect).

There is almost nothing from my dad’s side of the family. I didn’t know his parents well, as we lived in another state, and we called them by the formal names Grandmother and Grandfather. As far as heirlooms go, there’s only a decorative plate that belonged to Grandmother, who gave it to my mom as a thank you gift for doing her hair for a special occasion. Grandmother died when I was six and we didn’t visit Grandfather often. My most vivid memory of him was his gorgeous Maltese accent, which he never lost after seventy years in this country, and he called me “Leeza”. Oddly, just remembering the sound of his voice brings tears to my eyes.

As Mom got old, after Dad died, I knew that I’d be inheriting these things sooner rather than later. By this time, I had become keenly interested (obsessed, actually) with genealogy and starved for information about my ancestors. I wanted to know the stories behind the heirlooms. Who did they belong to? Where did they come from?

For reasons known only to her, Mom clammed up. I would say to her, “How about if you and I spend some time together cataloging your collectibles? I’ll take pictures of everything and you tell me their stories. That way, the information can be passed on for generations.” She always put me off, and refused to tell me.

This is the cup and saucer that my grandma smuggled into the US, one of my favorite stories about her.

She took that information with her when she died. The only story she ever shared was about a teacup and saucer that my grandma smuggled into the US from Canada. She hid the saucer against her belly, beneath her girdle, and the cup beneath her bra. I thought this was a marvelous story and I treasure it and the cup and saucer.

When I’d ask, as a youngster, to use one of the teacups she’d say in a reverent tone, “No, that’s very expensive!”

In reality, they weren’t very expensive. Yes, Royal Albert was a grade or twelve above what we used in daily life, but what she was saying was she didn’t trust me to not break her valuable things. She continued this distrust when she got so mad at me for not settling down into the kind of life she lived, with her house in the suburbs and a safe space to store stuff.

I still don’t know why she wouldn’t tell me the history of the items. I suspect it’s because, in her elder years, she became miserly and felt like everyone wanted to take her things. She felt put upon and taken advantage of, which was truly not the case. No one in the family deliberately did this to her. Everyone was respectful of her things and her fears. I can only assume that this was a buried psychic pattern, an ancestral wound.

Mom valued things for their monetary value and I treasure them for their stories. It breaks my heart that I’ll never know the origins of many of the items.

I’ve chosen to explore this aspect of my mom’s psyche because if she had this bent perspective, so do I, even it’s expressed in a different way. She expressed the dysfunctional pattern as a fear of people taking her things, but it expresses in me as “I’m not good enough, mature enough, responsible enough to take care of very expensive things.”

Perhaps that’s why I choose to look at these very expensive things as stories, instead. I’m a great caretaker of stories. Maybe that’s what made me the family historian. It’s not about the money spent, it’s about the people who spent it.

Now that I’m in possession of a portion of Mom’s collectibles, I keep her teacup collection in her display case, which I inherited. I make a deliberate point of inviting my kids and grandkids to carefully choose a cup for a spot of tea, which I make in my own teapot that I hope someday my kids will fight over inheriting, instead of dreading having to store their mom’s old crap.

My way of breaking this pattern, aside from allowing the kids to respectfully use the teacups, was demonstrated recently on my granddaughter’s 21st birthday. She and I have spent many afternoons sipping tea and eating scones together, and she’s beginning to collect household items for her first apartment. With this in mind, her birthday gift was her very own Royal Albert teapot set, in a design pattern that fits her personality.

I hope she’ll pass her tea set along to her progeny as an heirloom of her own, along with the teacup my grandma smuggled in from Canada in her bra, and the “Feed the Birds” cup that I bought at St. Paul’s Cathedral in London, and all the other items I’ve told her stories about …


Lisa Bonnice is an award-winning, best-selling author whose “day job” is as a Program Host at The Shift Network, where she hosts summits on ancestral healing, life after death, and intuition and medicine.

Her current passion-project is a series of metaphysical comedy novels. The first is entitled The Poppet Master (previously published as Be Careful What You Witch For!, now revamped and with a new ending). The Poppet Master is a modern-day fairy tale about Lola Garnett, a bored housewife and office drone who wakes up with unexpected psychic abilities, and no instruction manual, and Twink, the reluctant, sarcastic faery assigned to assist and educate her. The Poppet Master is available wherever books are sold. Its sequel is in the works.

Lisa is also writing The Maxwell Curse, a fictionalized version of a story she found in her own ancestral lineage about a witch trial, a generational curse, and massive mine explosion, all of which left ripples of destruction in their wake, devastating one family’s tree.

http://www.lisabonnice.com

I’m not *that* bad! Are you?

Albrecht Dürer woodcut, The Penitent

Dig this: I’m not a bad enough person to feel as bad as I once did. While I’m not perfect, I’ve never caused enough harm to deserve the levels of guilt and anxiety I’ve dealt with most of my life. In order to feel this much guilt and fear of punishment, I would have had to commit a heinous crime. Guess what … not guilty.


So where do these unwanted feelings of unwarranted unworthiness come from? Societal conditioning? Brain washing by Madison Avenue and/or the Illuminati? Past life karma?

Or, it could come from ancestral trauma. The science of epigenetics has proven that traumatic events, which cause a fight-or-flight reaction, can change the way our genes express themselves. This physical manifestation of PTSD gets passed down through the generations. Here’s just one article explaining how it works, if you want more information. As the host of three annual Ancestral Healing Summits for The Shift Network, I’ve interviewed a ton of experts who agree on this so, for me, this is not in question.

My session airs Thursday, February 25, 1pm Pacific, and will stream free for 48 hours after.

Ancestral trauma can kink your hose in ways you don’t even realize. In fact, in my own session of this year’s Ancestral Healing Summit, the awesome Nick Mattos and I talk about how to rediscover and reawaken your magical heritage by looking into your ancestral past, to discover where/how your connection to your gifts might have been broken.

For clarity, when I used the words magical heritage, I’m talking about natural gifts and abilities that we all have, things like a green thumb or a knack for cooking, crafting, or even healing and intuitive abilities. Sharing these gifts in communities are how humankind survived for as long as we have before technology made life so much … ahem … easier. These skills were often the causes of accusations of witchcraft which, as we know, resulted in some pretty heinous behavior.

But because many of our gifts have been oppressed, we may not even know we have them. Or, we may be aware of them, but are afraid to demonstrate them for fear of reprisals or rejections.

You should check out the Summit. I had some amazing conversations with some amazing people, who had amazing information to share. It airs free during the week of February 22-26. My session airs at Thursday, February 25 at 1pm Pacific time, and will stream free for 48 hours after that.

And, at the risk of sounding like a crummy commercial, I also talk at the end of my interview with Nick about a new project I’ve been working on with the lovely and talented Carrie Paris. Since discovering her Relative Tarot and Oracle, I’ve become a big fan of her work. (Check out the interview I did with Carrie for Mind Yourself on the topic of communicating with ancestors.)

As Carrie and I got to know one another, she suggested that we combine our areas of expertise to create an oracle designed around ancestral healing, I jumped at the chance. Check out the Generations Oracle!

This divination kit (featuring Carrie’s gorgeous artistry), includes a reading cloth, casting charms, a pendulum, informational coins (based on the Lenormand oracle symbols) and an instruction booklet. Bring your own ancestors. We’ll be teaching classes in its use further down the road, so let me know if you’re interested in getting on the waiting list by subscribing to my blog. That will be the best way to stay in the loop.

Anyway, back to ancestral healing … I’ve talked about this elsewhere, but it bears repeating. By doing this work, I feel so much less existential guilt and anxiety. I understand my mom — the unintentional source of some of my pain — so much better. I grok how her family history dented her in ways that were beyond her ability to cope, or even repair without a lot of inner work. And people in previous generations didn’t know about the kinds of inner work we’re used to these day.

I see, now, how she felt as bad about herself — worse actually — than I did before embarking on my own inner work. She was, by all accounts, a good person who loved her family. She was a good mom. But she was screwed up by her family story, and passed it on to me … which I passed on to my kids, and they passed on to their kids …

What happened in my mom’s lineage to break her in just this way? I’m still scratching the surface (in fact, I’m writing a novel based on the fascinating story I discovered in my mom’s ancestral history about witch trials and mine explosions), but I can say, without a doubt, that her father experienced numerous mind-bending traumas in a very short time frame, at a fairly young age. He didn’t stand a chance to be a healthy individual, much less a healthy parent. The pain he was in could have easily caused my mom to feel the way she did, and for me to feel how I felt, and my kids, and their kids …

I’ve been working with my mom’s father’s ancestors because, in triage order, this branch needs attention more than the others — it’s the most wounded. Since beginning this exploration, my physical and mental health have improved tremendously. I used to keep my bottle of Xanax with me at all times, just in case. Now, I only rarely feel anxiety intense enough to medicate myself. That, in itself, is a tremendous shift.

What about you? Do you see anything in yourself, like this, that just doesn’t make sense until you look at your ancestral history? I’d love to read your stories in the Comments.


Lisa Bonnice is an award-winning, best-selling author. Her current passion-project is a series of metaphysical comedy novels. The first is entitled The Poppet Master (previously published as Be Careful What You Witch For!, now revamped and with a new ending). The Poppet Master is a modern-day fairy tale about Lola Garnett, a bored housewife and office drone who wakes up with unexpected psychic abilities, and no instruction manual, and Twink, the reluctant, sarcastic faery assigned to assist and educate her. The Poppet Master is available wherever books are sold. Its sequel is in the works.

Lisa is also writing The Maxwell Curse, a fictionalized version of a story she found in her own ancestral lineage about a witch trial, a generational curse, and massive mine explosion, all of which left ripples of destruction in their wake, devastating one family’s tree.

http://www.lisabonnice.com